Finally, a question of the day that interests me

[nerwengreen]

questionoftheday asks: Do you ask enough questions, or do you settle for what you know? What questions do you think you need to be asking more of?

My answer:

I don't ask enough questions. The ones I need to ask more of are the emotionally difficult ones. I don't ask them because they're emotionally difficult. It also doesn't help that the last time I had a big set of such questions, and I tried to ask them, it repeatedly ended with me being emotionally destroyed.

It's making me quite a bit more cautious in my current relationship. But he's a great guy and doing pretty much the opposite of what the last guy did, which helps a lot. He lets me approach him at whatever pace I want, and doesn't seem to get too terribly upset if I'd rather keep my distance. Which then makes me want to come closer.

And then sometimes I wonder, if I'd done with the last guy what my current guy does with me, maybe it wouldn't've worked out the way it did. Live and learn by watching others with more experience I guess.

Comments

[foliedemars]

I wouldn't be so quick to judge yourself on the past based on current happenings. Relationships are a two-way street, and everyone has their own way of operating. I'm glad things seem to be going ok for you in the NZ!

[nerwengreen]

Not really judging, it's more observing. :) Every relationship is a learning experience and practice for the next one, so it's helpful to compare how things are going with how things went. Though I guess it's easy to slip into judge and blame if you aren't paying attention...

[foliedemars]

You are right. Self-awareness is good!