I was slapped in the face once when I was a kid. My mom lost her temper when I said something to her. I don't remember what. I only remember that she slapped me hard. That is the only physical punishment I ever got as a kid. I don't remember that my parents ever disciplined me. I guess I behaved. At least at home. At school there were periods of times when I misbehaved and disturbed the teachers so much that they threw me out from the classroom. One teacher called home and asked mom and dad if there was something going on in my life that made me so troublesome. Anyway...I don't remember my parents all to well from my childhood. Surely they must have taught me right from wrong but I can't really remember. I think they became disappointed when I misbehaved and as I so desperately wanted them to be proud of me, their disappointment was enough to make me understand that I had done something wrong. What I do remember was that I watched my two older siblings and what they did right.
I never had problems with snooping parents either. I still am not sure if my parents really know who I am. Some months ago my mom came across one of my drawings. She was a bit stunned and asked if I had made that one. I said 'yes' and she said 'oh'. End of convo. I wonder if she ever knew that my drawing teacher in school wanted me to apply to art school. I doubt I ever told her.
I am a parent myself now and some things I have learn from my own childhood to avoid when it comes to how I treat my kids. But most of it is common knowledge and what feels right and seems to work.
You really don't need to be quiet, Nerwen. You have the right to your opinions. I think we come from different cultures when it comes to spanking kids. I have never been spanked (except for that one time my mom lost her temper). I have no friends who got spanked. No neighborhood kids as far as I know. It is really not a method that even comes in mind when it comes to my kids. With a good explanation they often get why they shouldn't behave like they did. People that tell kids that they are to young to understand got it all wrong. Kids DO understand. Even very very young kids. Kids understand a larger amount of words than they actually can say themselves.
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Date: 2006-08-02 07:22 pm (UTC)What I do remember was that I watched my two older siblings and what they did right.
I never had problems with snooping parents either. I still am not sure if my parents really know who I am. Some months ago my mom came across one of my drawings. She was a bit stunned and asked if I had made that one. I said 'yes' and she said 'oh'. End of convo. I wonder if she ever knew that my drawing teacher in school wanted me to apply to art school. I doubt I ever told her.
I am a parent myself now and some things I have learn from my own childhood to avoid when it comes to how I treat my kids. But most of it is common knowledge and what feels right and seems to work.
You really don't need to be quiet, Nerwen. You have the right to your opinions. I think we come from different cultures when it comes to spanking kids.
I have never been spanked (except for that one time my mom lost her temper). I have no friends who got spanked. No neighborhood kids as far as I know. It is really not a method that even comes in mind when it comes to my kids. With a good explanation they often get why they shouldn't behave like they did. People that tell kids that they are to young to understand got it all wrong. Kids DO understand. Even very very young kids. Kids understand a larger amount of words than they actually can say themselves.